5 Ways Jamaican Culture is Secretly Feminist

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Alexis Chateau

When most people think of Jamaica, an island paradise comes to mind. But though we don’t have half the problems America does, it is no paradise. In place of racism, we have “classism”; and in place of race-baited police brutality, we have class-baited police brutality.

This year, Jamaica also experienced an unprecedented surge in violence against women and children. Even in 2014, it was bad enough for me to consider leaving the country. By 2015, I had my eyes set on Europe to escape the distinct feeling of misfortune that often accompanies being the owner of a vagina in a Third World Country.

When I ended up in America instead, I was nonetheless looking forward to enjoying a more equal playing field as a woman. What I found is that though there are more laws in our favor in America, I enjoyed more personal freedoms in Jamaica.

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Is being happy a compulsion?


Click is by Amit Bose

© Copyright 2014 Amit Bose. All rights reserved.

I am not happy, but why do I have to put a happy  face? If Iam unhappy, why should I mask it with a happy face?

It’s fashionable to say, ‘I choose to be happy’. Is it a choice or a compulsion?

There can be people who are terribly unhappy and don’t want to be disturbed. So, why can’t they just be themselves and stop feeling the compulsion of wearing a fake wide smile.

Let’s be a bit more practical and honest here. Life in not always filled with happy moments. You are bound to be sad at times. Why would you hide your unhappiness? If WE live in a ‘HEALTHY’ society, we should be able to understand each other’s feelings no matter how sullen and sorrowful they are.

I am not saying carry on with your sullen mood, all that Iam trying to say is, you will take time to transition to happiness again. So, you should have the time and space to be that way till you naturally feel happy.

Lot of positive thinkers say look at everything from a positive perspective. Is your mind thinking anything good now? So how do you expect to be thinking positive? You cannot be forcefully positive. That’s like being a hypocrite.

Often writers and actors who have gone through depression or sorrowful moments in life, create great work. Pain gives birth to the most touching and beautiful creations.

Sad songs always touch you more than happy ones. I don’t propagate being sad, but, I surely believe in being honest to yourself and creating a surrounding where you can be yourself.

If you camouflage your unhappiness with a fake smile and behave humourous, it’s terrible. Because it won’t work for long. Sorrow will build within you and spill in your behaviour or your communication with your loved ones (either you will start behaving rude, irritated, lose interest in life, etc.)

It’s like slow poisoning, which is totally unhealthy. Our present society forces us to be ambitious, happy and successful (the parameters of success are also pre-defined by a society that has a skewed intellect).

The core and cure of grief and depression is to build a society where we are ready to accept each other as we are. There shouldn’t be a defined way to behave, live and express. Why do we need to live in parameters. We are not robots.

But, yes today we are turning into robots. We are in a rat race, ignoring a hell lot of simple things in life (like being able to express ourselves).

Two days back I wrote this below poem about society. Most of my friends were shocked because, it is full of anger and hate.

Over a cup of coffee-Society (5)

But, we all atleast once in our life have felt like rebelling against the rules laid down by the society.  So, we have felt hateful about the way our society functions. This is not what we usually think but, it’s just an expression of anger that spills into words; a momentary thought that turns to be an inspiration to write something like that. Why be judgmental and say it’s not a great idea to write negative. I have often pondered over the thought, “Should I share my dark poems?” But, sad stories/ poems too touch people because, after all we have gone through this feeling some time in our life.

So, if you are feeling sad, no matter for whatever reason that is pretty normal. If you are happy no matter for whatever reason that is also pretty normal. BE YOURSELF!!!

© Copyright 2017 Rashmi S. Malapur. All rights reserved.

Sexual Harassment at workplace

Enough is enough!


When a woman or man says this, she or he is probably had enough. But, why in the first place do victims keep mum over the matter for so long? The saddest part of sexual harassment cases at workplace and elsewhere, is that a woman or man feels skeptical if she or he will be believed, let alone be supported. This is because the assaulter more often is powerful and no one would dare to stand by them.

What do they do in such a case. They just shut up, leave the job or avoid a confrontation with the assaulter.

Recently there have been many cases where a victim has voiced her sexual harassment experience with regards to a person, and later on some more women have done the same.

May it be Mahesh Murthy, a prominent Venture Capitalist in India where Rashmi Bansal has spoken about her experience after 13 to 14 years. She revealed her experience after another victim Vamika Iyer spoke up.

Look at the most famed Arunabh Kumar’s case (founder of entertainment network, The Viral Fever- TVF). One by one victims have come forth and shared their encounters with Arunabh. I have heard people voicing concern or rather being insensitive by saying ‘Why didn’t these women speak up before?’

Irrespective of whether Arunabh Kumar or Mahesh Murthy have engaged in these acts, I wish to answer this question.

How do you think a woman or man (victim) feels when she/he is touched inappropriately? Do you think anyone would like to speak about it publicly or share it with anyone? When a victim speaks up, other victims gather the courage to speak and support.

It is the most demeaning, disgusting and creepy feeling. It is rather alarming how we take an individual for granted. In the case of women we say if she steps outside to work, this is the kind of treatment she might get, it’s part of the work environment.

If a woman or man takes time to speak up about how she/he was ill-treated its totally okay. Instead of crucifying her/him for speaking up after many years, and dismissing it as an old matter, why don’t we support them?

Most incidences that come forth in public are sexual harassment cases where women are the victims, but it can be otherwise too.

The day we start respecting women as individuals with rights (and not only responsibilities), stop glorifying qualities like sacrifice, patience and endurance, we will create not only a respectable workforce but, also happy families in the true sense.

© Copyright 2017 Rashmi S. Malapur