Is being happy a compulsion?


Click is by Amit Bose

© Copyright 2014 Amit Bose. All rights reserved.

I am not happy, but why do I have to put a happy  face? If Iam unhappy, why should I mask it with a happy face?

It’s fashionable to say, ‘I choose to be happy’. Is it a choice or a compulsion?

There can be people who are terribly unhappy and don’t want to be disturbed. So, why can’t they just be themselves and stop feeling the compulsion of wearing a fake wide smile.

Let’s be a bit more practical and honest here. Life in not always filled with happy moments. You are bound to be sad at times. Why would you hide your unhappiness? If WE live in a ‘HEALTHY’ society, we should be able to understand each other’s feelings no matter how sullen and sorrowful they are.

I am not saying carry on with your sullen mood, all that Iam trying to say is, you will take time to transition to happiness again. So, you should have the time and space to be that way till you naturally feel happy.

Lot of positive thinkers say look at everything from a positive perspective. Is your mind thinking anything good now? So how do you expect to be thinking positive? You cannot be forcefully positive. That’s like being a hypocrite.

Often writers and actors who have gone through depression or sorrowful moments in life, create great work. Pain gives birth to the most touching and beautiful creations.

Sad songs always touch you more than happy ones. I don’t propagate being sad, but, I surely believe in being honest to yourself and creating a surrounding where you can be yourself.

If you camouflage your unhappiness with a fake smile and behave humourous, it’s terrible. Because it won’t work for long. Sorrow will build within you and spill in your behaviour or your communication with your loved ones (either you will start behaving rude, irritated, lose interest in life, etc.)

It’s like slow poisoning, which is totally unhealthy. Our present society forces us to be ambitious, happy and successful (the parameters of success are also pre-defined by a society that has a skewed intellect).

The core and cure of grief and depression is to build a society where we are ready to accept each other as we are. There shouldn’t be a defined way to behave, live and express. Why do we need to live in parameters. We are not robots.

But, yes today we are turning into robots. We are in a rat race, ignoring a hell lot of simple things in life (like being able to express ourselves).

Two days back I wrote this below poem about society. Most of my friends were shocked because, it is full of anger and hate.

Over a cup of coffee-Society (5)

But, we all atleast once in our life have felt like rebelling against the rules laid down by the society.  So, we have felt hateful about the way our society functions. This is not what we usually think but, it’s just an expression of anger that spills into words; a momentary thought that turns to be an inspiration to write something like that. Why be judgmental and say it’s not a great idea to write negative. I have often pondered over the thought, “Should I share my dark poems?” But, sad stories/ poems too touch people because, after all we have gone through this feeling some time in our life.

So, if you are feeling sad, no matter for whatever reason that is pretty normal. If you are happy no matter for whatever reason that is also pretty normal. BE YOURSELF!!!

© Copyright 2017 Rashmi S. Malapur. All rights reserved.


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